In my last blog I wrote about getting goosebumps when trying to choose the right event for 2016. I got an amazing response to this blog and even had one of the Go Runners suggest that the idea of a first marathon gave her goosebumps and that we start working towards that as a new goal. AWESOME!!
Before we all get carried away, it is important to recognise that goosebumps are just the start… Now the tough stuff starts. Time to overcome all of those real but hidden fears that we put in the way of ourselves when training for these events. This blog is about recognising those fears.
Even as a coach, I am not somehow immune to these fears. In fact, I am one of those people that wants to be good at something before they try it. This means that if i don’t think i will be good at it, I either don’t do it, or it takes A LOT of persuasion to get me to try. This has been the case with numerous sports, from swimming as a kid, through to pilates as an adult, even my running has required a lot of work on this front. My mum will tell anyone who cares to listen about my swimming lessons as a kid and how much I hated them, because I wanted to be able to swim already. I don’t remember those very well (selective memory perhaps??) but I do remember signing up to train with a local football team in the UK one summer and being so petrified of going to training that I pretended to be sick, hid upstairs and refused to leave the house. Now, lets get one thing very clear. I loved my football. I played all day and watched it most evenings.
So why the drama?
I was absolutely petrified of not being good enough and of what people might think of me.
I can’t even dismiss this fear as being something that I only had as a kid, because I still care what people think. I remember it took almost a year of persuading and waiting for me to try pilates, which I now love. I remember putting off my first parkrun in Melbourne for weeks, whilst my wife, Kathryn went, raved about it and met some of the best friends we have ever had. I have now done over 100 parkruns. I have no doubt that I am getting better but Kathryn keeps telling me that I still care too much about what other people think. I am a work in progress…..aren’t we all?
Over the past three months I have been doing a lot of listening to the runners I coach and others, hoping to understand more about some of the fears that exist for real people around their running. I have heard stories that really do make me sad. Fears like...